Choosing A Mate Wisely

DISCUSSIONS WITH A close friend of mine were once dominated by her excitement and continuous expressions that she wanted to get married. She told me she had a brother in mind that captivated her with his charm, intelligence, and handsome looks. She said that he was interested in her as well. She said many things about him, but none of […]

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The Fires of Marriage: Fire #1: Is Your Spouse Inconsiderate of Your Time?

IN OUR INTRODUCTION (“The Fires of Marriage: How to Stop Fighting With Your Spouse”) we discussed how marital conflict can be used as a tool to bring couples closer by strengthening their bond. Just as Allah’s Messenger œ mentioned that fitnah (tribulation) purifies the believer like a forge-fire purifies gold, there is perhaps no relationship that can purify a person better […]

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Men Are Babies and Other Jokes

MEN ARE JUST babies.” “Women are so emotional.” “Your husband is your first child.” “Don’t try to understand women.” In lectures and articles, from popular Muslim speakers and well-meaning aunties, these phrases are passed on as part and parcel of marriage advice or counsel on how to deal with the opposite gender. The tone is usually light-hearted, with a knowing […]

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The Fires of Marriage: How to Stop Fighting

The Missing Marriage-Crisis Link MARRIAGE IS CURRENTLY one of the most popular topics in the Muslim community, and not just because people like a love story or aunties are bored (although those are true too). Marriage in America is in crisis, irrespective of religion. As a reaction, we constantly hear talks that seek to enlighten the average Muslim couple about their […]

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Spiritual vs. Romantic Love

There has been a tendency to mix between romantic and spiritual love, with a mistaken belief that both are just two faces of the same coin. While I agree that both emanate from the same sacred fountain of life, with an objective of creating enjoyable and serene atmosphere, there is a clear distinction between them. Romantic love is conditional, spiritual […]

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You Were a Spouse Before You Became a Parent

Escapism is officially defined as: Es·cap·ism (-skpzm) n. The tendency to escape from daily reality or routine by indulging in daydreaming, fantasy, or entertainment. *** He arrives home at 8:30 p.m, exhausted from the day’s work. As he shuts the front door gently, she hears him enter, totally engrossed in the latest plot twist of the local prime time television show. […]

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Marriage bliss: a recipe

By: Haqqseeker Source: MuslimVillage INGREDIENTS: Piety (obedience and fear of Allah). Mubarak Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (Allah’s peace be upon him) Love Loyalty Understanding Friendship Contentedness Forbearance Intimacy Affection Smiles Compliments Forgiveness Gifts Pleasant Surprises Fragrances Last, but not least, Zikr, Du’as and Sadaqah DIRECTIONS To the combination of piety (obedience and fear of Allah) and Sunnah, add a lavish amount […]

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10 tips on how to win your husband’s heart

Before we get started let us as wives remind ourselves of one very important fact, our husbands are our ticket to paradise insha’Allah. Allah’s Messenger (saws) said, “When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes.” Al-Tirmidhi Hadith […]

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5 Tips for Courtship in Islam (Watch)

In this video, professional counselor Karim Serageldin gives tips to keep in mind as you get to know someone for the sake of Muslim marriage in a western cultural context. Karim Serageldin, founder of Noor, completed his BA in psychology & religion, followed by an MA in east-west psychology with a specialization in spiritual counseling. He is a certified life coach with years […]

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