In Islam satisfying one’s sexual appetite is a both a vehicle to perpetuating the human race and curbing one’s most basic and primitive desires.
A rewarding Intention:
Lawfully satisfying one’s sexual appetite is a means of lowering one’s gaze and guarding one’s modesty. It is by the Mercy of Allah that muslims are rewarded for lawfully satisfying their sexual appetites.
Abu Tharr (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that some of the companions complained to the Prophet SAW that “O Allah’s Messenger! The wealthy people have taken away all of the rewards. They pray as we do and fast as we do, and they give charities from their extra monies.” The Prophet SAW replied “But has Allah not given you that which you may offer as charity? Verily, every tasbih is a charity; every takbir is a charity; every tahlil is a charity; every tahmid is a charity; commanding good is a charity; forbidding the evil is a charity; and having intercourse (with your wife) is a charity. And all of those may be encompassed by two rakat that one would pray in the mid-morning.” The companions asked “O Allah’s Messenger would one of us fulfill his desire and yet get a reward for that?” The Prophet SAW replied “Assume that he directed it toward a prohibition (Zina), would that not result in a burden for him? Therefore, if he directs it toward that which is permissible, he gets a reward for it.” (Recorded by Muslim)
Producing the Righteous:
Allah has prescribed a dua upon muslims which aims to safeguard their children from the planning of shaytaan before they are even created.
Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah SAW said “When one of you wants to approach his wife (meaning sexually), if he says: Bismillah, Allahuma jannib nash-Shaytaan, wa-jannib ish-Shaytaana ma razaqtana (With the name of Allah, O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep him away from what you grant us). If it is decreed that they get a child (from that intercourse) Satan will never harm it.” (Recorded in Bukhari and Muslim)
We as muslims should strive to preserve and protect our future children by integrating this supplication into our bedroom repertoire.
Fulfilling one’s desires in Haste:
In Islam, safeguarding one’s modesty is one of the primary purposes of marriage. As such it is highly recommended for one to satisfy his/her sexual urges immediately.
Usamah bin Zaid (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that Prophet SAW said “I have not left after me a tribulation more harmful to men that women.” (Recorded in Bukhari and Muslim)
Talq bin Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah SAW said “When one of you desires from his wife (sexual) need, let him go to her, even if she is working at the outdoor oven.” (Recorded in Tirmidhi)
The aforementioned ahadeeth indicates that a Muslims should curb their sexual appetites by immeaditely satisfying their sexual urges. It is highly recommended that the wife accommodate her husband’s sexual advances as this is one of her duties as a wife. It is not befitting a muslimah to reject her husband sexual advances without a legitimate shariah reason.
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah’s Messenger SAW said “If a man invites his wife to bed and she refuses to come and he sleeps while angry, the angels curse her till the morning.” (Recorded in Bukhari and Muslim)
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him( reported that Allah’s Messenger SAW said “By the One in whose hands is my soul, never would a man invite his wife to his bed and she refuses but the One who is above the heavens would be angry with her until he (her husband) is pleased with her.” (Recorded in Muslim)
It it is important to note that women have rights similar to men. As such a husband should also accommodate his wife’s sexual advances as marriage is a union which requires cooperation, understanding, and patience from both parties. It is only by fulfilling the rights and duties Allah has laid down upon us that we as Muslims may be successful.
Muslim Harmony – Advice Central Team