So, you have set your Ramadan goals and are on your way to achieving them with consistency and persistence, insha Allah.
Everyone seems to have set their sights on creating a productive ramadan by increasing our ibadah in terms of prayer, sadaqah, Qur’an, etc. However, one aspect of ibadah (or an aspect which can be considered sadaqah when done with proper intentions) is our intimate lives; that is the intimate lives with our spouses.
In the past, I recall getting into arguments with my wife when she felt that I wasn’t spending enough quality time with her. Interestingly enough, these arguments would take place just before work which would result in a decrease in productivity, stress and even tardiness, at times.
You see, as Muslims we are required to be balanced in everything that we do. This Ramadan, do not ignore your intimate relationship with your spouses as it may lead to an Unproductive Ramadan, where khushoo is lost as you’re thinking about your latest conflict during prayer or you miss fajr or isha congregation altogether as you’re trying to work things out with your spouse.
Day in and day out we need to do things with ihsan and sincerity and this should be even more emphasized in Ramadan. Although, you’re probably extremely busy with ibadah, taraweeh, suhoor, ensure you spend quality time with your spouse everyday, even if it’s 10 minutes! This will insha Allah go a long way and increase the love between the spouses and, in turn, allow you to have a peaceful and Productive Ramadan.
By: Abu Ali