What is a Mahram?
Who can be a Mahram? Can my husband take my 70 year old grandmother for Umrah? Is he considered a mahram? Please provide any sources/references if you have.
The scholars have listed five conditions for a person to be considered a mahram. He should be male, Muslim, adult, and of sound mind, and he should be a relative to whom marriage is permanently forbidden, such as a father, brother, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, father in law, mother’s husband or brother through radaa’ah (breastfeeding), etc. (as opposed to relatives to whom marriage is temporarily forbidden, such as a sister’s husband, paternal aunt’s husband, maternal aunt’s husband).
Your husband has become a mahram to your grand-mother as soon as the marriage contract is done. This is called a mahram by marriage.
The women who become mahrams through marriage are of four types:
1. Women married by one’s father (i.e., father’s wife and also grandfathers’ wives). Allah says in surat Annissa’: ‘And marry not women whom your fathers married’
2. One’s wife’s mother or grand-mother: ‘Forbidden to you (for marriage) are ‘your wives’ mothers’? (Surat Annissa’)
3. One’s stepdaughter (a wife’s daughter by a previous husband). The stepdaughter is not a mahram unless the man has consummated the marriage with her mother. If he simply made a marriage contract with her but did not consummate the marriage, then she is not a mahram, because Allah says in surat Annissa’:
‘your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in them’
4. One’s son’s wife and one’s grandsons’ wives, because Allah says in surat Annissa’: ‘?the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins’
And Allah knows best
Sh. Riad Ouarzazi
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